I get a request for an online chat several times a week, mostly from people I don’t know and have had no contact with before. The request might come via my website form, a private message on LinkedIn or BlueSky, straight into my inbox – I haven’t had one by carrier pigeon yet but the way things are going that will probably happen soon.
Some people want to talk about me working for them, but if we have had no prior contact that doesn’t usually work out well. I had a request recently from a university in Asia for a half-hour meeting to discuss how I could develop some research methods modules for them. I didn’t have time to spare even for a short meeting, so I asked them to email me the information – and I was glad I had, because it took me about three minutes to work out that I couldn’t help them and two minutes to write a polite email back explaining why. They wanted modules on very positivist-type research, mostly quantitative and including outmoded concepts like neutrality and objectivity, which is about as far from the work I do as it’s possible to get within the field of research methods.
Some people want to talk about collaborating with me. Mostly this means they want me to write with them on a topic of their choosing and help them get that published. When I explain how much writing and publishing work I’m already doing, they realise I don’t have enough spare time to work with them. At the time of writing I am waiting for manuscript review of a new edition of one of my books and scheduling work on a new edition of another one; co-editing two further books; co-editing one book series and editing another. My writing/publishing workload is usually like this.
From time to time, wanting to collaborate with me means someone wants to write a chapter for a book I’m editing or co-editing, or contribute to my conference, or propose a book for one of the series I edit or co-edit. Those discussions are welcome as part of my ongoing work.
Some people ask if I can give them voluntary work or an internship. This may be because I work through a limited company, which might give people the impression that I have a big office and lots of staff, or it may just be because of my profile. Either way I work on my own, in an office in my garden, and I don’t have the capacity to take on a volunteer or an intern, let alone any actual work to offer them.
Mostly people want to tell me about their own work with creative research methods. For sure that is something I’m interested in and enjoy hearing about when I meet someone in person. But – and this is so often the problem – I have to earn a living. Understandably, nobody offers to pay me for online chats and, to be honest, even if they did I probably wouldn’t be keen, because small jobs involve a disproportionate amount of admin. Sometimes people just send me links to their work and ask for my feedback, and this can be a lot – I have had requests to read a whole book, listen to a series of hour-long podcasts, watch a full-length film, and visit an extensive online exhibition, among others. These are clearly people who are passionate about their work, and want to share, which is lovely, but there are already more books I know I want to read than I can find time for in what remains of my life.
There are people who automatically get a ‘yes’ to the question ‘can I have a chat with you?’ These include people who have paid me for work in the past or are going to pay me for work I am currently doing, and people who have collaborated, or do collaborate, with me on research, writing, or other projects. There is another key difference between these people and my cold-callers. This is that people who work with me know how busy I am and approach me with respect and care, and I do the same for them. We might ask each other for favours, but they will be favours requiring only a small amount of time, such as casting an eye over a book proposal or giving advice on a funding bid or career move. In summer 2022, when I was thinking about setting up the International Creative Research Methods Conference, I sought advice from several key people in my networks, asking each one for ten minutes of their time, often tacked onto a meeting we were already having about something else.
I wish I could help all the people who ask for my help. That is one reason I spend a lot of unpaid time creating resources for the research community: this blog, my YouTube channel, setting up the conference, founding the Journal of Creative Research Methods, co-founding the Independent Research Ethics Committee, writing and editing books and book series (for which I do get small amounts of royalties, but nowhere near an actual income).
A few years ago I wrote a post on here about how to get the best out of a busy person. That led to follow-on posts on three Whisperer blogs: Thesis Whisperer, Research Whisperer, and Wellbeing Whisperer; all are worth reading. They all emphasise the need for respect and care during the asking process. So, essentially, if you contact me out of the blue and ask me to read, listen to, watch, or help with your work, that is all about you and shows no respect or care for me.
The moral of this story is: if you want a chat with someone who doesn’t know you, consider how you can show respect and care for that person.









